I’m interested in any strategies that other people have used to tell work colleagues about a cancer diagnosis. Also what your thoughts were on them. Were they your strategies or the strategies of someone else?
It felt like I didn’t have a model for how to tell colleagues I had cancer. No, I lie, I did have a model, I just thought it was awful and unsupportive.
The model I have observed is that people just disappear. Some other colleague who might be more friendly with the person might then mention in passing that they have cancer. Or there will be the catch-all”unwell”. Then the person reappears and has to deal with addressing their absence.
Telling my work colleagues I had cancer – what I didn’t want.
I decided I didn’t want to do the disappearing act.
So how did I tell people? I started with what I didn’t want.
The,”email all” approach didn’t appeal. I work for an organisation that has three separate centres and there are people I haven’t met in Support, let alone the other centres!
My work situation at the time.
I was seconded at the time into an Instructional Design position for our Learning Centre. My immediate manager had been amazing, and I floated the idea past them of writing something for the newsletter that the Learning Centre put out every month.
My logic was that the Learning Centre newsletter was sent across all departments and disciplines. Therefore specific team leaders could then share what I wrote with, for example, the team where my substantive position rested.
I spoke to the Learning Centre Manager and they were also very supportive. Again, I can only emphasise how important this is. If you manage people, consider how you might handle this situation.
Newsletter: how I told my colleagues I had cancer.
Background and diagnosis
After being unwell over the last few months, undergoing a series of medical tests across April through until mid May, I have now been diagnosed with early breast cancer.
I have tumours in both breasts, and I am currently in the process of waiting for what will be quite an extensive surgery. The recovery time is also anticipated to be longer than usual.
I am off work to focus on my health for the next couple of months. I will be staying in touch with the Learning Centre team at [redacted] and the Instructional Design team.
I’d like to put a huge shout out to [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], and [redacted] for their support over the last two months and to [redacted] for being my representative in dealing with all the administrative work side of things. [redacted] has been another constant, as she has been since I started at [redacted], 12 years ago (well, nearly – my anniversary is August 02nd).
I have joked many times over the last two months about [redacted] being my external brain, but honestly, it’s been a difficult time, compounded by moving house (because timing is everything!).
The Learning Centre team have been amazing, and I have thoroughly enjoyed my time with them.
See y’ all on the other side!
Be well, stay safe.
This bit was so hard! I didn’t know how to sign off… Again, my design team helped me troubleshoot.
My submission was made on the 30th May to my Manager, and they then put it into the June newsletter. By that stage, I had kind of signed off on it in my head. I honestly didn’t expect the response I got!
Colleagues emailed me, sent me messages, and there were even flowers.
I was incredibly moved by the outpouring of support.
There were also some real practical offers. We were still in lockdown, but people offered home cooked meals with contactless delivery, I had some people donate leave, I had some very pragmatic people gift Uber and Menulog gift cards.
After this general announcement, I included the people who reached out from work in all my updates. Which reminds me… I haven’t done a general update whilst I have been working through all these anniversaries, I should probably do one!
Ensure that you are vigilant around your self-examination. Train yourself to check your breasts/testicles routinely, and monitor your bowel habits and your urine output. These are our body’s early warning signs, and we don’t have a lot of awareness of them.
Related blog posts
- Friday 28th May 2021 (Cancer Journal 7)
- Friday 28th May 2021 Plastic Surgeon
- Wednesday 26th May 2021 Cancer Clinic
- Tuesday 25th May 2021 Left Breast Diagnosis
- Friday 21st May 2021: Biopsy, Left Breast
- Tuesday 18th May (Cancer Journal 6)
- Monday 17th May 2021 Arranging the biopsy
- Saturday 15th May 2021 (Cancer Journal 5)
- Wednesday 12th May 2021 (Cancer Journal 4)
- Friday 07th May 2021 (Cancer Journal 3)
- Cancer surgeon
- Sunday, 02nd May 2021 (Cancer Journal 2)
- Saturday May 01st 2021 ( Cancer Journal 1)
- Facebook post
- How to tell people you have cancer.
- Deciding strategies
- The Camus Question of Choice
- The Follow-up Tests
- The phone call.
- Check your breasts